Feeling sorry for yourself gets you nowhere. I’m in the business of helping busy people reach their goals and I mean business as a coach. There’s limited bullshitting with me because it’s my job to help you work past all of those negative patterns that keep you from reaching goals in the first place.
Sure, there are outside circumstances, inside circumstances and the random shit in between that happens…that’s life, but the moment we start to search for sympathy or pity is the moment we sabotage ourselves.
I love this quote because it’s a reminder not to dwell in sympathy and just get going. Just don’t waste your time! I recently had a client who lost their job due to COVID and said something along the lines of “It’s sad, now I’m just an unemployed person. It’s a shame.” My response was “It’s a shame you are letting this circumstance define you! Let’s get moving on options to be employed…” By the end of the call, she had a list of 10 options to pursue to get back in the game, felt emotionally charged and ready to find a new job.
It’s so easy to use self sympathy as an excuse. Don’t let it trap you. Recognize it for what it is-call it out and immediately take action to put one foot in front of the other. One small step forward will help motivate you to take the next step and the next. Then before you know it, you are getting farther away from feeling sorry and just may find yourself motivated and inspired. Imagine that!
So next time you feel sorry for yourself, remind yourself you are better than that! You have things to give to the world that no one else can.
Use that time to be kind to yourself, get back on your feet, and take a step away from pity and sympathy. If you need to have that couple of hours where you binge-watch Netflix and eat a bag of Cheetos, go get it out of your system and then leave that pity party behind!
There’s a better party just around the corner…and they leave assholes at the door. Do you smell that? This better party also has cupcakes. You know those cupcakes are going to taste way better than the shit sandwiches your pity party offers.
Go for it!